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When two people sit together and they want to start a good conversation they start talking about the person who is not present there, they think in this way their bond might get stronger and they might get closer, the person who does this thinks it's an ordinary gesture even he thinks it's a good initiative to start a friendship, many friendships starts this way like when one person says to other "did you hear what he/she did??" And they start gossiping about him/her that he/she should done this way or that way and in this way a never ending conversation starts. In the start both people enjoy the gossips, they laugh and taunt but they remain unaware of the unseen religious, emotional and biochemical consequences.
Human brains are wired for social connection and survival and people consider "gossip" as a social tool for bonding. They also gossip to boost their ego or to seek validation and it also triggers dopamine which makes it addictive and create a momentary excitement and a false sense of connection. Overtime engaging in negative talks raises cortisol and repeated gossip can dull oxytocin and empathy circuit in brain making the person less emotionally intelligent and more reactive and fear of being caught create anxiety and restlessness too.
By doing gossips you blame others and blaming others itself is an act of low class, so you keep dropping your class if you gossip. Gossips spread negativity much like secondhand smoke, even listeners are psychologically affected.
The one who is being gossiped when hears about the stuff discussed about him his cortisol level rises leading to stress, anxiety, self doubt and insomnia, the person may lose oxytocin driven feelings of safety and connection which can lead isolation or depressed. Islam considers gossip a major sin too.
"O you, who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is a sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead?” (Quran, 49:12)."
So gossips feel like connection but cost emotional health, replace gossips with discussing ideas and always pause before speaking.
Alina Ahmed
Batch 5
