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There was a girl who was obsessed with fictional characters like Spock, detective Sherlock Holmes, Picard, an android Data from Star Trek and Mulan. She admired their exceptional intelligence, discipline, courage and curiosity. This teenage girl tried to act like them to hide her flaws. Even though she knew deep down, those characters had flaws too.
She judged others around her who cared about outfits, social media presence, trends and stuff like that. She could see the mask others were wearing but she couldn’t see hers. Hers, although less shallow, was still a mask. One day she realized a bitter truth that she was also pretending to be someone else. That was her definition of cool.
In youth culture, being “cool” means standing out, getting a lot of attention while acting like you don’t want and don’t care about it.
This desire comes from the Spotlight Effect, which is the tendency to think that others are noticing and judging us more than they actually are. It also comes from a deeper belief, shaped by storybooks and movies, that there are always Main Characters and Side Characters. That’s why people, especially youth, try to be or act cool so that they can be the main character. This causes their inner and outer world to clash. Deep down, they start to believe they’re not good enough.
The truth is, in real life, there are no Main or Side characters and people are too busy with their own selves to see the cracks in others.
